The Amazing Wedding Race

"Ikakasal na si Jen, yung anak ni Espie... naunahan ka pa".
(Espie's daughter is getting married... she beat you to it.)

Two mornings ago, I woke up to my mom's nagging voice telling me that her friend's daughter is getting married and she's only 22 years old. Until this day I don't get why my mom likes talking to people who are still asleep, particularly my sister and I. Maybe because she just wants to talk and talk uninterrupted or that's her way of waking us up--- pretending that we're already awake!

I tried to ignore her and pretended that I was still totally asleep. But, the truth is when I heard the words "naunahan ka pa" (she beat you to it) my eyes popped open under my pillow. SHE BEAT YOU TO IT????!!!! Is that what she really said? I was screaming in my head "Ma! Helloooo! I'm only 26! It's not like I'm 46!" I was contemplating if I should comment on what she said or forever hold my peace. Since half of my brain is still asleep I could lose this "So What If I'm Still Single" debate. But, my mom kept yapping on and on about how Jen had an SM (or what Filipinos call "secret marriage") and how she always wondered why the boyfriend's car is always parked outside Jen's house whenever she would pass by on her way to work every morning.

"Maaaa!!! You didn't tell me that getting married is a race?! You should've told me earlier 'cause I would have started running faster a long time ago if I knew it was a race!"

As soon as those words came out of my mouth I started laughing! I imagined thousands of women in their wedding gowns and stiletto heels running down the streets chasing "Mr. Right" like that scene in the movie "The Bachelor".

To all the single ladies out there please don't ever think that snagging a husband is the greatest achievement in life. A man doesn't define who you are. The state of your happiness or success is not based on whether you're married or not. It's okay to be single and to not have a boyfriend and to not have a date every Saturday night. It doesn't make you any less beautiful than you already are.

And I am also very aware of the fact that unfortunately women have their biological clocks ticking ang it's ticking twice as faster as soon as you reach 25. But, getting married doesn't have a timeline or a deadline. It may happen early for some people, it may happen later in life for others and for some it could never happen at all. So, whenever that time is and if it's ever going to happen is all up to God. He knows what is best for us. He has a plan. He has His own timeline. Don't ever meddle with God's timeline and try to speed up the process just because the world (or your mom) is pressuring you to get married at a certain age.

It is true that God has designed man not to be alone but to be with a partner but I believe that it is important to find out first what God has planned for YOUR life, as a person, as an individual, as you! Use this time of your life as a chance to seek God's will and discover if marriage is for you.

Getting inspiration from Hip Hop Ab's Sean T. "It's not a race to the moon, [singlehood] is a fun movement of purpose!"

As I told my mom that morning...


So what if I'm still single?!