Top 5 Things To Do When You're Missing Someone But You Can't Let The Person Know

Top 5: "Chuck it Away"

Get rid of everything that reminds you of him/her. Turn off the radio or delete some if not all the songs in your iPod or PSP or MP3 or wherever gadget you store your music. Even just a song or a scent or a TV show will remind you of either all the happy times you've had together or why you hate the person so much. I once had a "burial ceremony" where I burried in our backyard all the things that reminded me of this ex that I was having a hard time getting over. Whenever I would miss him I would smell his favorite sleep shirt that he gave me because even after a couple of months it still smelled like him. Well, either the scent didn't go away or he smells like a balikbayan box.

Top 4: "Get Busy"

Try your best not to think about the person by keeping yourself busy. Divert your attention to things that will help you forget about your misery. Talking about the person too much to just about every living thing who will listen will definitely not help you to your path of recovery. So talk about other things. Find your passion. Take up a hobby. Read books. Pray. Or start blogging. Channel your feelings through other things. Just don't do drugs.

Top 3: "Go out"

And by go out I mean with friends or family or co-workers NOT on a date with someone you know is just a consolation prize! Surround yourself with people who truly love you, these are the people who has stuck by you over the years through thick and thin. Dating a rebound guy/girl is one of the worst mistakes you can ever do. If you actually think that you can fill that void in your heart by looking for a replacement well you're mistaken my friend. Because you can't avoid comparing the two and pretty soon you'll realize that there's no one in the world you'd rather be with but the person you're missing so terribly.

Top 2: "Don't go online"

Stop checking (every chance you get) his/her Facebook, Friendster, Multiply, MySpace or whatever website where you will find information about him/her and if you can't help it then don't go online at all. It's better that you don't learn any news about the person because it'll just make you miss him/her even more or worse you might find out something that will just break your already broken heart. And besides that's bordering on stalking and you gotta admit it's a lil' bit creepy!

And the Top 5 thing to do when you're missing someone but you can't let the person know is:

"LET HIM/HER KNOW!"

I mean why torture yourself?! So what if he/she doesn't feel the same way? You're just being honest, right? But of course if you do this you cannot expect the person to react the way you want them to and there's always a chance that you'll get hurt and disappointed even more. It's a risk you gotta take just be sure that it's a risk worth taking. Now, if the response you get is less than desirable you can always say you were drunk and had no idea what you were talking about!

DISCLAIMER: The author of this blog is no relationship expert. She has not received any degree or certification in Psychology or anything related to the study of human behavior and emotions. She will not be held liable for whatever outcome, good or bad, the reader taking her advice may experience. She is however a failed relationships expert.

And of course obviously I'm only writing this because I'm missing someone and I can't let him know. Sometimes I'm not even sure who I'm missing really, maybe it's not a particular person anymore. It's the idea of having to miss someone. Or maybe I haven't been out on a real date for so long that inspite of me being a commitment-phobe...

I miss being in a "couple".